Cinderella. Do you remember the story?
You see, Cinderella knew how easily a skillful dancer can sweep you off your feet, and how you can mistake the euphoria felt, when you experience the ‘moment’ in the dance, for true love.
So, Cinderella had to lure the Prince away from the glitz and glamour of his palace and courtiers into her home territory, to find out if he really was the man of her dreams and lived up to her expectations in broad daylight.
The Prince had to pick up on the clue of her shoe, follow her out into the real world, and recognize her inner beauty, notwithstanding the ragged clothes of her impoverished circumstances.
If you are thinking of trying to make something more of a dance relationship, it might be a good idea to see how your Prince or Princess Charming measures up in the real world.
The tango world is littered with broken dreams and shattered illusions.
That dancer, who swept you off your feet in the shadowed milonga, might not stand up to scrutiny in daylight. He or she may not even remember that dance.
They may not be charming and personable, or an interesting conversationalist. They may lack wit and a sense of humour. Ego might need constant feeding.
In the thrall of the magic of tango, it is easy to mistake arrogance for confidence, or a desire to dominate and control for care.